
DEBATE
Smacking children
The latest survey suggests more than 70% of the public
is against physical punishment. But there are many who argue that
parents should have more freedom in bringing up their children. BBC News
Online talked to two charity officers who hold opposite views on the
matter.
1. Iain Bainbridge, Christian Institute
development officer :
Discipline is part of love. The current law only allows moderate and
reasonable chastisement, therefore parents who use unreasonable or
immoderate physical punishment can already — and should be — prosecuted.
Also, other sanctions that parents may use instead of smacking, like
resorting to sarcasm or withdrawal of affection, can be more damaging.
The other argument that people use is that smacking is
violent, and violence is wrong. But of course there are many
circumstances where some kind of physical impact is permitted and seen
as acceptable. For example, if a surgeon operates on somebody, the
motivation is to help the patient, and again, with physical punishment
the parents' motivation is to discipline and train a child. Another
argument is that in the last couple of decades we have outlawed physical
punishment in schools. And what have we seen? More civility, less
bullying? No, we've seen exactly the opposite. And now an increasing
number of teachers are leaving the profession because of the total lack
of discipline, and even teachers being assaulted. So we would say that
it's wrong to criminalise loving parents for using moderate physical
punishment. What moderate means, is for the courts to decide in the
coming law. We think that's the best case.
With regard to what is being proposed, I have seen
that there is an amendment being put down to the children's bill — it's
extremely restrictive. The vast majority of parents use their own common
sense, but the way to go forward is not to further restrict the freedom
of parents and to plunge the vast majority of them into legal confusion
and the possibility of prosecution for using reasonable and loving
discipline. The ironic thing about all this is that the government's own
Office of National Statistics survey found that 89% of people think it's
sometimes necessary to smack a child. Groups like the NSPCC, who are
part of the Children are Unbeatable campaign, are actually seeking to
criminalise their own supporters because the vast majority will at least
at some point in the past have used physical discipline on children.
Finally, if smacking is made criminal, that means
social workers and police will have to investigate all sorts of trivial
cases, and that will prevent them from being able to concentrate on
cases where children are actually physically abused.
2. Lucy Thorpe, NSPCC policy advisor :
What we are actually talking about here is children having the same
protection as adults under the law on assault. That would send a clear
message to parents and everybody else that hitting children is as
unacceptable as hitting anybody else in the society. What we have at the
moment is a situation where children actually have less protection under
the law on assault rather than the same as adults. The poll that
Children are Unbeatable have released shows seven in 10 people would
want a change in the law to give children adequate protection. We do
know from our own research that attitudes are shifting. A majority of
people believe that it's wrong to hit babies and toddlers. The fact
remains that there is a Department of Health research that shows many
babies have been hit by the time they are one. The difficulty is, we
have a law that dates back to 1860 which is failing to protect children.
On the one hand we have professionals who are trying
to protect children and send out messages in terms of positive and
non-violent parenting, and on the other we have a law that says that
children can be hit by their parents.
This is clearly an anomaly and it hampers effective
child protection and family support. We at the NSPCC don't just want a
change in the law — we want much more widespread support and education
for parents on the benefits of positive non-violent discipline. I know
that the discussion is often based on 'what harm does a light smack do'.
It may do no physical harm, but there are several things attached: we
know that physical punishment can in some cases escalate and turn into
abuse. Also, it sends a clear message to children: that might is right,
that if you don't like what someone is doing to you should resort to
physical force.
Now, in terms of domestic violence between adults we
would not accept for a wife or husband to give their partner a tap or
smack, and it should be the same for children. In terms of promoting
good family relationships we don't want undisciplined children more than
anybody else does, but we do want children to be brought up in a loving
and supporting household where positive, non-violent discipline is used,
which actually helps children learn about their behaviour and develop
self-discipline. If you rely on physical punishment you are teaching a
child to be afraid of you, and you are potentially storing up a lot of
problems: children can feel hurt, angry and resentful.
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