choice of
details critical in minimizing harm.
Covering Teen Suicide: One paper's
decision
Details spark emotion in a story. But what happens
when the details could cause vulnerable kids to kill themselves? Few
newspapers write about suicides because of “suicide contagion” or
the possibility of prompting copycats. Others consider the issue a
private matter, believing most families don't want to talk about why
a loved one chose to end their life.
I understood those concerns but I couldn't ignore the death of Timmy
Thompson.
Timmy shot himself on a warm July evening during the summer of 2004.
He was 18, a recent high school graduate and one of the most popular
kids in Cape Elizabeth, a small seaside town in Maine.
His death confused and scared many of his friends. They couldn't
understand how this young man with so much promise could kill
himself.
The night he died, some 200 teenagers painted a large roadside
boulder with the words: “In loving memory of Tim Thompson.” The
teens left sports jerseys, flowers, and mementos of what Timmy loved
in life: Moxie soda bottles, gummy fish candy, his soccer cleats.
Timmy's private death had become public. Thousands of drivers passed
by the 20 by 30-foot boulder each day, asking: “Who was Timmy
Thompson?”
I asked myself that same question and began talking to people in
town about Timmy's death. Early on, my interviews stirred surprise
and concern.
School social workers warned me: “You know about the copycat affect
don't you? You could cause more suicides.”
Suicide prevention experts told me that sensational media reports on
suicides could result in suicide contagion or copycats. People who
are mentally unstable, especially impulsive teenagers, are
predisposed to suicide. If they read or view reports about someone
killing themselves, they may interpret the suicide as a solution to
their problems or a way to gain attention.
Coverage of celebrity suicide is especially dangerous, says Alan
Berman, director of the American Association of Suicidology.
“Vulnerable people who have psychiatric illnesses look up to
celebrities or people they idolize and they will imitate their
actions,” Berman said. “When Marilyn Monroe killed herself, there
was a rise in the suicides of young women.”
The words of these suicide experts chilled me but I still believed
Timmy's story needed to be told. My editors at the Portland Press
Herald/Maine Sunday Telegram agreed.
Maine has the highest youth suicide rate in New
England and is above the national rate. Timmy's family was also
unusual. His parents refused to isolate in their grief. They knew
they needed to get help not only for themselves and their four
surviving children, but for Timmy's friends, his teachers and the
town.
Timmy's dad stood up at one town counseling session that drew 300
people and explained: “I am not ashamed of my son. He died of an
illness. He was suffering from depression.”
Though I was committed to covering Timmy's story, I soon learned
that delving into a suicide, especially the death of a teenager,
would test my reporting instincts and writing skills.
Praying for more good than harm
During the months that I reported on Timmy's death
and a three-day series on teen suicide, I silently prayed that my
stories would do more good than harm.
I would also confront many stereotypes about suicide, a word that
means self-murder, an act that some religious faiths once equated
with eternal banishment from heaven.
American Association of Suicidology Director Alan Berman told me
that centuries ago, suicide victims sometimes had their hands cut
off or stakes put through their hearts. They were also buried at
crossroads, so their tainted souls would be forever beaten down.
As I began talking to Timmy's friends and family,
I also spoke with several national suicide prevention experts like
Berman. They warned me that every word I chose, every detail I used
could have dire consequences.
My articles, they explained, could prompt other vulnerable kids to
take their own lives. They cautioned that details of Timmy's death
should not be used because it could cause other depressed youths to
kill themselves.
They also said that I should be careful not to glamorize Timmy's
suicide or to simplify the reason he killed himself.
They reminded me that my word choice also needed to be thoughtful.
Using the phrase “committed suicide,” connoted criminal or sinful
behavior. They urged me to use “died by suicide” instead.
Using the term “successful suicide” was also foolish because it
mistakenly inferred that the act had been a success.
Most of their advice made sense to me. But some of it went against
my reporter's instinct. Powerful details meant the difference
between a story that gripped the reader and one that fell flat.
In the end, my editors and I agreed we would be cautious but would
still tell Timmy's story truthfully and with integrity.
Many kids in Cape Elizabeth mistakenly believed Timmy killed himself
over a break-up with his girlfriend. But suicide is rarely completed
because of one traumatic incident. It is often the result of many
stresses that prompt a mental illness such as depression or bi-polar
disorder to worsen.
According to the American Foundation for Suicide Prevention, 90
percent of the people who kill themselves have a serious mental
illness, which is often undiagnosed.
Though I did write that Timmy and his girlfriend had broken up I did
not dwell on the incident because it was one of many stresses he had
faced in the last three months of his life.
Timmy had just graduated from high school. His
beloved school lacrosse team, had lost the state championship, a
loss that devastated Timmy. He was preparing to attend a college
prep school, something he had mixed feelings about.
And he had recently gone off medication he had taken for most of his
life for attention deficit disorder.
While I included the detail that Timmy and his girlfriend broke up
and that he was upset about losing the lacrosse game, I also
explained that Timmy had been acting erratically since his May 1st
birthday when he turned 18. It was then that he had decided to stop
taking medication for his attention deficit disorder. The
medication, he said, made him “too hyper.”
As I spoke with Timmy's friends and his family, I learned that Timmy
had struggled with depression in the months before his death. His
doctors considered the possibility that he also suffered from
bi-polar disorder.
Timmy kept his illness secret from many of his buddies. Few knew he
suffered a psychotic break and spent a weekend in a psychiatric
hospital a month before he died.
Time spent with parents
I spent many hours with Timmy's parents learning
about their son's life and the days that lead to his death.
They told me how they raced to get their son help and how three days
before his death, Timmy adamantly told his counselor that he was not
suicidal.
His parents painfully recounted the Saturday afternoon Timmy killed
himself. The entire family, Timmy's parents and his four siblings,
were home that July evening. Timmy had spent much of the day in the
bathroom, complaining of stomach problems.
Just before dinner, Timmy's dad checked on his son. Timmy told his
father he was OK. Ten minutes later, his father heard a loud boom.
He ran to the bathroom and found his son. Timmy lay against the tub.
“My God, he's fallen and hit his head,” his dad thought.
Then his father smelt the gun powder. He saw the handgun in the
sink.
Timmy's dad had bought the firearm years ago for
security at his office. He had recently hid the gun in the family
attic and the ammunition in his sock drawer.
Suicide experts would have preferred that I leave out the scene
describing Timmy's death. But I felt the gun was an important part
of the story. Firearms are used in about half of all teen suicides
in Maine, as they are nationally, according to the Centers for
Disease Control. Hangings and poisonings, the CDC says, are the
second and third most common means of suicide.
After talking with my editors, we agreed to include the scene but
eliminate the detail about the gunpowder. It seemed too graphic and
we worried that it could incite a vulnerable teen to imitate Timmy's
act.
Other details prompted debate too. Many of Timmy's friends had
idolized him and after his death, several of his buddies got tattoos
with Timmy's initials: “TLT.” A half dozen girls bought necklaces
with silver hearts and had them engraved: “TLT forever.”
Not using these details was an easy choice. Though the teens
explained to me that the tattoos and necklaces were meant to
celebrate Timmy’s life, I could see where a fragile and unstable
youth would think otherwise, believing that the jewelry and body art
glamorized Timmy's suicide.
The experts had warned me that romanticizing Timmy's death or
depicting him as a hero, may prompt other depressed or ill teens to
seek similar popularity by killing themselves.
Suicide copycat research also showed that dramatizing suicide with
photographs of the victim's gravesite, funeral or a public memorial
could encourage other youths to view suicide as a way of gaining
attention.
While we didn't use photographs of Timmy's funeral or his gravesite,
we did run a photograph of the boulder that the teens had painted.
The rock became a public place for Timmy's friends, family and
teachers to gather and grieve. They painted messages, wrote poems
and lit candles.
Thousands of people had driven by that boulder. To
ignore it, would have left a big hole in the story.
I described the rock in the story and we ran a
photo of it on the inside pages rather than on the front page. Out
front, on A1, we ran a photo of Timmy's family. It was taken while
they were on vacation in Venezuela, a month before Timmy's death. It
showed them all standing on a boat, hugging one another, laughing.
The sun lit their faces and a turquoise sea rippled behind them. The
headline beneath the photo read: “When death comes too soon.”
The suicide prevention experts had cautioned that the word suicide
not be used in the headline because it could trigger other fragile
youths to pursue front-page coverage by ending their lives.
Along with writing stories about Timmy and Maine's high teen suicide
rates, my three-day series included contacts for parents and kids,
who needed help. The paper listed phone numbers, Web sites of
counseling agencies, mental health advocates. We also posted the
warning signs for suicide and depression.
I felt confident that everyone at my newspaper, the editors and
copy-editors had handled the stories with care and sensitivity. But
still the fear of suicide copycats haunted me.
I couldn't sleep the night before the stories on
Timmy appeared in the Portland Press Herald/Maine Sunday Telegram in
November 2004.
Positive response to the series
The response to the series was overwhelmingly
positive. Timmy's family felt it treated their son's story with
dignity and explained how he grew rapidly ill. The newspaper
received more than 200 letters and e-mails.
Many of the letters thanked the paper for writing about such a
difficult topic. Some of the e-mails were from teenagers who had
lost a friend to suicide and wanted to talk about it.
Parents wrote about their own pain after their children had either
attempted suicide or had killed themselves.
A few e-mails said we shouldn't have written about Timmy or suicide.
One man criticized me for 'making Timmy a poster child for
anti-depressants and told me: “Burn in hell, you awful, awful
person.”
Maine's governor initiated a task force to figure out ways to reduce
the state's high teen suicide rate. He also ordered every state
agency to come up with a plan on how they can help prevent young
people from taking their own lives.
A couple days after the series appeared, a
counselor told me that a middle-aged woman in his group therapy
session had read Timmy's stories. The woman also lived with bi-polar
disorder. She told her counselor: “If I kill myself, then my
community will show they love me like they did with Timmy.”
Thankfully, the counselor talked to her and dissuaded her from
taking her own life.
Two days later, Frank Campbell, a national suicide prevention expert
from Baton Rouge, told me he had read my series. “You will never
know how many lives you saved,” he said. “You have started a
conversation about suicide that is long over due.”
Timmy's friends said they liked the story. It gave them a better
understanding of how sick Timmy was and how his illness caused him
to complete such a tragic act.
I now know that writing about suicide doesn't cause suicide. But I
also know that reporters and newspapers must take great care when
covering stories about self-murder.
Still, it is a story that should be told. According to the CDC, more
than 30,000 people kill themselves every year.
Suicide, the CDC says, is the third-leading cause
of death for young people nationally, after accidents and homicides.
In Maine, it is the second-leading cause of death for youths.
Yet suicide remains a taboo topic for families, communities, and
newspapers.
It's been four months since I wrote Timmy's story. I find myself
reading the obituary pages now. I look at photographs, the faces of
young and old, and I read the description of how they died. When
there is no explanation of death, instead a vague sentence that says
the deceased died suddenly at home, I have a hunch it is likely
suicide.
I am always struck by their ages. Young kids in their teens. Young
people in their 20's and 30's. I stare at their faces and I wonder
about the details.
Barbara Walsh
15 April 2005
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