NUMBER 66 • 15 JULY 2002 • UNWANTED BEHAVIORS
INDEX OF QUOTES
A lot of energy is wasted trying to make unwanted behaviors disappear as opposed to providing alternative choices that are useful to these children in meeting the standards of personal independence and social responsibility expected by their age and cultural group.
You cannot eliminate a behavior, whether it’s useful or not. A particular behavior once owned is always there. Embrace those behaviors that appear irrational or inappropriate in the present context knowing, at one time, this behavior kept them alive (at one time it was the best choice with what they had learned up to that point in time). Everybody’s doing the best they can with the information available to them.
Avoid getting caught up in the “unwanted” behaviors. How often does one hear “don’t do this,” “don’t do that,” — not real effective communication. Current research indicates that the mind refuses to recognize negatives. It hears and imagines “do, do this.”
— SUE ROSE
Rose, S. (1985) Heart notes from the desk of a child care worker. Journal of Child and Youth Care Work, vol.1 (2), p.74