Reading for child and youth care people
                 April 2005  Issue 75 
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Fear in a Hat: a group interpersonal

understanding exercise

James Neill
 

Set an appropriate tone, e.g., settled, attentive, caring and serious. The tone could be set by introducing the topic of fear and explaining how it is normal and natural at this stage of program that people are experiencing all sorts of anxieties, worries and fears about what might happen. A good way of starting to deal with these fears is have them openly acknowledged — lay them on the table, without being subject to ridicule. Having one's fears expressed and heard almost immediately cuts them in half.

This activity can be done as the first in a program, during the initial stages or well into the program. When used early on in particular, it can help to foster group support and be helpful for alerting the group to issues they may want to respect in a Full Value Contract.
Ask everyone, including the group leaders, to complete this sentence on a piece of paper (anonymously): “In this trip/group/program, I am [most] afraid that ... ”or  “In this trip/group/program, the worst thing that could happen to me would be ... ”
Collect the pieces of paper, mix them around, then invite each person to a piece of paper and read about someone’s fear.

One by one, each group member reads out the fear of another group member and elaborates and what he/she feels that person is most afraid of in this group/situation. No one is to comment on what the person says, just listen and move on to the next person.
If the reader doesn't elaborate much on the fear, then ask them one or two questions. Avoid implying or showing your opinion as to the fear being expressed, unless the person is disrespecting or completely misunderstanding someone’s fear. If the person doesn’t elaborate after one or two questions, leave it and move on.

When all the fears have been read out and elaborated on, then discuss what people felt and noticed.

This can lead into other activities, such as developing a Full Group Contract, personal or team goal settings, course briefings which specifically tackle some of the issues raised, or into other activities in which participants explore their feelings and fears (e.g., see the Fear in a Hat description at www.nurturingpotential.net  )

Variations:

• Likes and dislikes — in two separate hats

• Worries

• Complaints/gripes

• Wishes

• Favorite moments

Equipment: Paper and pen/pencil per participant; Hat, tin or bag.

Time: 5 minutes + 1-2 minutes per participant, e.g., 15-20 minutes for a group of 10.

Brief description: People write personal fears anonymously on pieces of paper which are collected. Then each person reads someone else's fear to group and explains how the person might feel.

Links to other versions:
Fear in a Hat http://www.jafi.org.il/education/hadracha/games/2a.html#1
 www.jafi.org.ilm
Fear in a Hat http://www.nurturingpotential.net/Issue5/NewII.htm
www.nurturingpotential.net

This feature: Fear in a Hat: Description of a Group Interpersonal Understanding Exercise http://www.wilderdom.com/games/descriptions/FearInAHat.html