APPROACHES
We hear from Peter Harper who worked with Di Margetts in setting up a network in
the UK which helps people to deal with problems of abuse and bullying.
Protective Behaviours
Protective Behaviours was developed in Madison, Wisconsin, during the 1970's as a
result of children approaching a School Social Worker, Peg Flandreau West, telling her
about violence and abuse which was happening to them. In her attempts to address this
problem, Peg realized that many children were not feeling safe, and as a result their
schooling suffered and numerous other problems ensued. With the assistance of survivors,
children, colleagues, friends and many hours, even years, of brainstorming, visioning,
laughter and tears, the Protective Behaviours process was nurtured into its current form.
From the US, through a series of coincidental meetings, Peg West was invited in 1985 to
Victoria, Australia, to train a group of selected people pie who would take the process to
others. Originally through police and then community networks the programme was taken up
by all the Australian states. There is now a National Protective Behaviours Forum with
regular meetings and conferences to share stories, information, and materials.
From Australia, Protective Behaviours Inc went to the United Kingdom in 1991, again
starting with police networks and then flourishing into a wider community involvement.
There are many local Network groups throughout the UK. There are other countries involved
at various levels of development, including Canada, Papua New Guinea, Vanuatu, Hong Kong,
Norway, and the Philippines. There is an international journal published twice a year. Who
can tell when or where the first international Conference will be?
Feeling safe and unsafe There are many external rules about what is safe and how to
protect ourselves, but these do not account for individual differences as to what is
perceived as safe or unsafe. The PBI process deals with these issues by helping us to
first recognise what 'safe' feels like to each person. Feelings of 'fun scary' are then
explored and compared with how the body feels when it is not so 'fun' to feel scared. The
process then teaches us how to organize and maintain systems of support and how to use
strategies to prevent and or interrupt potential or actual violence.
The Programme
There are two themes used to introduce Protective Behaviours lnc.
1. We all have the right to feel safe all of the time, and
2. There is nothing so awful we can't talk about it with
someone.
Three concepts are contained in these themes: safety; early warning signs; and
networks.
Feelings of safety are identified to form a base line from which each
individual can measure his or her own levels of 'safe' or 'unsafe'. People then identify
those times when it is fun to feel scared such as a fun fair ride, a scary story, making a
speech or such like. Next, people identify specific body signs or early warning signs
which happen when they do not feel safe. These may include 'butterflies in the stomach,
shaky knees, heart beating faster ...
In both cases, 'fun' and 'not so fun', we feel the same body signs, but there is a
fundamental difference. When it is not fun there is a lack of choice or control over what
is happening and/or there is no sense of when it will finish. For example we know the
scary movie will finish. Many victims of violence do not listen to their early warning
signs, discounting their feelings and telling themselves they are being stupid. There are
many reasons for this, but suffice it to say that we need this internal measurement on
which to base our understanding of the safety (or otherwise) of the external rules or
situations.
To understand this second theme, people explore how it feels to talk about a problem, what
sort of person we would wish to confide in and how we know if someone would have these
qualities. Then participants identify their own personal networks of support. A
network consists of the minimum of 4 people in addition to any adults at home. Network;
are personal and chosen by the network
owner.
In order that the themes and concepts can be put into- practice, the following strategies
are used:
1. Theme Reinforcement
The two themes are constantly reinforced visually, verbally and by role modelling. This
may be done, for example, during group discussions, individual client work, through
curriculum materials and in the formal procedures of an agency.
2. One Step Removed
Questions are always asked in the third person, e.g. How can people keep themselves safe
even if ... For each person there are different actions and situations which may or may
not feel safe, and no one can begin to know what somebody else feels. In Protective
Behaviours, general situations are used, such as, How can we keep ourselves safe even if
... Someone bigger than us was about to hurt us? This may be bullying to One person,
assault to another, physical abuse to another, and to a fourth person it may not be
physical but emotional hurts. This One Step Removed strategy encourages creativity,
retains confidentiality and allows participants to explore options and choices with a safe
emotional distance from the situation being discussed. One Step Removed also enables an
individual to "check out" someone on their NETWORK before disclosing a problem,
for example, "What if someone told you that ( ... ) what would you do?"
According to the given reply, a choice can be made whether to disclose a problem or to try
someone else.
3. Network Review
As we grow and move through life our network needs evolve and change. network review is
checking out our networks on a regular basis to ensure that people continue to be
available and suited to our needs.
4. Persistence
Sometimes a request for support or help is not taken seriously, or the person asked will
not take the necessary steps to assist us. This strategy of persistence provides a frame
work for us to persevere in seeking help, through our preselected network of trusted
people, until enough happens for our early warning signs to subside and we feel safe
again.
5. Protective Interrupting
This strategy is used to intervene and stop abusive, potentially abusive or reckless
behaviours and attitudes. In addition, a facilitator would use this strategy to stop
someone else from disclosing in a situation which could increase the persons
vulnerability.
6. Risking on Purpose
While feeling safe is a key concept, it is always linked with the idea of "Risking on
Purpose". People are encouraged to explore taking risks on purpose and facing life's
challenges using early warning signs and sense of choice to decide if it is fun or unsafe.
7. Watching our Language
This is a strategy to develop an awareness of how violent metaphors are a part of our
language, and attempting to use non-violent alternatives. Another aspect of this is
stopping ourselves from using 'command mode' (telling someone what to do) as a means of
teaching the PBI process. The content of the process is about non-violence and
empowerment, thus the teaching strategies are congruent or the same as the content.
Methods
Protective Behaviours sessions are conducted within a safe environment and use
brainstorming and participation processes. People are invited to share ideas and develop
possible solutions to specific situations which may feel unsafe. Protective Behaviours
concepts and strategies are adaptable and can apply to almost any circumstance. Moreover
they can be used with people from any age, race or ethnic background.
The Goal of Protective Behaviours Inc is to promote the prevention of violence and abuse
in all its forms, including discrimination against individuals or groups on the basis of
religion, ethnicity, colour, lifestyle, values, age, gender, physical or mental abilities.
Training in Protective Behaviours needs a minimum of six hours, and can be taken in one or
more sessions. There are abundant materials for all age levels to support people who wish
to use the process with others.
The Protective Behaviours model has been offered in the UK to adults and to
high-school and primary school children. Those interested may write to Peter Harper, 17
Berry Close, Earls Barton, Northampton NN6 OHU, England. E-mail Peter from here: P.B.Harper@btinternet.com