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The International
Child and Youth
Care Network
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PRACTICE Achievement Behaviour Michael Niss Achievement behaviour is an important part of a child’s development that leads to a child learning to be effective and developing a sense of mastery over his environment. Through achievement one develops a positive self-esteem, feeling of acceptance, adequacy and self worth. There are many factors that affect a child’s motivation and achievement behaviour. The key players are parents, school and friends. Early Experience Not only is the child’s personal perception important, but also the reaction to experiences from others around him. A child learns from the responses he gets from parents, teachers and peers. How he is doing and, in fact, the expectations of these significant others, can also affect his achievement motivation. When explaining this to parents I use the example of a plant that we water in the hope that it grows flowers. Similarly one should expect that a child will bear the fruits of their attempts. There can be nothing more demoralising for a youngster to feel that a parent or peer doesn’t think that he is able to master a task. Parents, teachers and significant others Parents and parent surrogates are the most significant individuals determining the self-esteem and achievement motivation of the child. Research is showing that a child’s perception of himself is tied up with the messages he receives from parents and teachers. Achievement behaviour is fostered through interaction with the child, so that the child learns that he can master tasks. Parents need to give children the message of positive regard and belief. A wonderful card received from a nine-year-old boy at termination of therapy read as follows: “Thanks for believing in me even when I was unbelievable.” This humorous card drives home the importance of positive regard. The boy started to improve his behaviour in many areas, especially at school. Never has questioning a child as to why he has not brought home good grades, achieved anything. This kind of question only isolates the child and makes him feel worse, as the truth is, he does not know.
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