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Listen to thisAsking another parent whether they have guns in their home – and how they store firearms – can be done as part of a broader discussion about safety that takes place before a play date, and should involve a two-way exchange of information, said Dr. Georges Benjamin, executive director of the American Public Health Association. The same conversation can address other safety concerns, like food allergies or swimming pool safety.
“People get really upset when you talk about their guns if they think you have a political agenda,” Dr. Benjamin said. “When you talk about safety, you put it in context. ‘I want your kids safe at my house, and I want my kids safe at your house.’ ”
When it comes to guns, the safest situation is not having firearms in the home at all, he said. But roughly one-third of Americans with children under 18 do have a gun in their home, including 34 percent of families with a child under 12, according to a 2014 Pew Research Center study.
And many parents who don’t own guns themselves have never talked about gun safety with their children, according to a report from C.S. Mott Children’s Hospital.
If parents keep firearms in their home, the weapons should be stored unloaded, locked in a safe and separated from ammunition, according to Dr. Benjamin. All three conditions are important because each one adds another layer of protection. Grandparents and other relatives might be asked about storage as well.
“If someone says ‘We don’t keep it loaded,’ that’s great, but there are numerous stories of people who thought it was not loaded but failed to take the last round out of the chamber,” Dr. Benjamin said. Trigger locks are a good first step, he said, but they are not foolproof.
The National Rifle Association does not advocate any particular gun storage method, a spokesman said, adding that parents should ask gun owners if they store firearms in a way that makes them “completely inaccessible” and place ammunition where a child “cannot reach it.” But Dr. Benjamin said the firearms should be stored in a locked safe, and not in a kitchen or bedroom drawer, closet or woodshed that could be left unlocked inadvertently or jimmied open by a teenager or a younger child playing hide-and-seek. The ammunition should be stored and locked in a separate location.
The trickiest situation is when people own guns for personal protection and keep a firearm in their purse or their car, Dr. Benjamin said, “because they want to be able to get to it quickly and use it quickly.”
Dr. Benjamin said placing things out of reach is not adequate protection. “A parent may say they put it high up so kids can’t get it, but if the parent can get to it quickly, the kids can get to it too,” Dr. Benjamin said, adding: “Kids see everything.”
Even if you do not own a gun, it’s important to have a conversation with your children about what to do if they ever see a gun, said Shannon Watts, a gun safety advocate and founder of Moms Demand Action for Gun Sense in America. That group co-founded a gun safety program that works with PTAs around the country. Children should be taught to leave the area immediately, not touch the firearm, tell an adult right away and call a parent, Ms. Watts said.
If your questions to other parents are met with resistance or evasion, or you are not pleased with their responses, you can of course offer to have the children meet at a playground or play at your house.
Roni Caryn Rabin
24 June 2016
